Far away from acceptance of so much. While I like to think society is progressive I can't help but address some issues that stare at me in the face everyday on social media.
With the rise of the right wing politicians (it is unbelievable how far Trump has come in the USA, how popular La Penn in France is becoming, and how Boris Johnson is our foreign secretary) and with that comes racism, comes violence. The black lives matter movement, it needs to happen in 2016 because American cops are too trigger happy, that's ridiculous to me. Then the movement is then violent to non-violent cops? Where is the peace? Where is the love?
In the UK after Brexit, we see a rise of violence and hatred towards immigrants, telling them to pack up and move away, ostracising people who have every right to be in our society. That should not be happening in 2016. We are an advanced and multicultural nation and always have been, where is our humanity? Where did it go to?
Then as far as mental illness is concerned... Man we are so far from accepting that. Why do people defend depression and anxiety to the ends of the earth but then decide to share memes about them being "psycho" and using "sociopath" and "narcissist" as insults? Personality disorders exist... You do realise this? Why should mental illnesses only matter if they seem "harmless" to other people? Everybody deserves help. Watch your words.
Then whenever someone claims someone is "faking" a mental illness or shares an article which apparently diagnoses the "signs of faking a mental illness" I cannot help but cringe and think "People with mental illnesses live in denial that anything is wrong and mostly won't seek help as it is, then there are people like this who imply some fake it... which might put somebody who thinks their ill off going to seek help". Yes, there are people who fake illnesses, yes it is in poor taste, but ignore it, let them get on with it, offer your ear to people who need it, it's a phase, they'll grow up, but while you're rambling on about people who fake illnesses you are ignoring that there are people out there who have an illness and your posts scare them into thinking "Maybe I'm just faking it."
Then we have feminism and rape culture, and people victim blaming. What you wear doesn't justify your sexual abuse, and we still need feminism for the reason that people think wearing a short skirt means you were asking for it. When people are drunk they expect a hang over, not to be raped. We are so far away from justice for anybody who has been raped. Like mental illness, there are girls out there who will lie about it, and they should be punished in order to deter more girls from lying, and to serve sufficient justice to those women who require it.
In terms of abusive relationships, why is it that when somebody tells somebody they've been in an abusive relationship, the other person is suddenly sceptical? Isn't that awful? To have your abuse totally invalidated? Then there are people who shrug and say "well [abuser] is always nice to me/is in a good relationship now", so bloody what? That doesn't make somebody's struggle less difficult. Listen to people's stories, make them feel listened to and valued. If you're sceptical, just remember that if it happened to you, you would want somebody to listen to you and believe you when you were in your most vulnerable state.
And the same goes for bullying. Anything horrible said to somebody these days is immediately dismissed as "dark humour" and the person should "lighten up", "be more thick skinned", how about, just not be a dick to somebody that doesn't understand/like your humour? Words can hurt, they can stay with you forever and they can fuck up your entire mental state. Then there are the "friends" who stay friends with those who bullied or hurt you, and it took me so long to realise that those people aren't actually my friends.
If you see somebody being bullied, be the person that wasn't standing up for you, be the person that wasn't there for you, that's how I live my life.
Then there's the term "attention seeking", oh goodness, I recoil at the term! Does anybody seek to be ignored? Everything we do in human existence is for attention... Look at me, writing a blog, for people to read. If somebody needs help and nobody will give it to them, then they will "seek attention", because that's the human instinct of survival. How about we stop shaming people for being "attention seeking" and just shut up and help them? Or make them feel good about themselves so they won't feel the need to seek attention in the different ways people do.
It feels like lately we aren't together as people and a world. We need to spread more love and acceptance out there. Think before you speak and whether it could hurt somebody or put them off seeking help. Not all jokes are in good taste.
With the rise of the right wing politicians (it is unbelievable how far Trump has come in the USA, how popular La Penn in France is becoming, and how Boris Johnson is our foreign secretary) and with that comes racism, comes violence. The black lives matter movement, it needs to happen in 2016 because American cops are too trigger happy, that's ridiculous to me. Then the movement is then violent to non-violent cops? Where is the peace? Where is the love?
In the UK after Brexit, we see a rise of violence and hatred towards immigrants, telling them to pack up and move away, ostracising people who have every right to be in our society. That should not be happening in 2016. We are an advanced and multicultural nation and always have been, where is our humanity? Where did it go to?
Then as far as mental illness is concerned... Man we are so far from accepting that. Why do people defend depression and anxiety to the ends of the earth but then decide to share memes about them being "psycho" and using "sociopath" and "narcissist" as insults? Personality disorders exist... You do realise this? Why should mental illnesses only matter if they seem "harmless" to other people? Everybody deserves help. Watch your words.
Then whenever someone claims someone is "faking" a mental illness or shares an article which apparently diagnoses the "signs of faking a mental illness" I cannot help but cringe and think "People with mental illnesses live in denial that anything is wrong and mostly won't seek help as it is, then there are people like this who imply some fake it... which might put somebody who thinks their ill off going to seek help". Yes, there are people who fake illnesses, yes it is in poor taste, but ignore it, let them get on with it, offer your ear to people who need it, it's a phase, they'll grow up, but while you're rambling on about people who fake illnesses you are ignoring that there are people out there who have an illness and your posts scare them into thinking "Maybe I'm just faking it."
Then we have feminism and rape culture, and people victim blaming. What you wear doesn't justify your sexual abuse, and we still need feminism for the reason that people think wearing a short skirt means you were asking for it. When people are drunk they expect a hang over, not to be raped. We are so far away from justice for anybody who has been raped. Like mental illness, there are girls out there who will lie about it, and they should be punished in order to deter more girls from lying, and to serve sufficient justice to those women who require it.
In terms of abusive relationships, why is it that when somebody tells somebody they've been in an abusive relationship, the other person is suddenly sceptical? Isn't that awful? To have your abuse totally invalidated? Then there are people who shrug and say "well [abuser] is always nice to me/is in a good relationship now", so bloody what? That doesn't make somebody's struggle less difficult. Listen to people's stories, make them feel listened to and valued. If you're sceptical, just remember that if it happened to you, you would want somebody to listen to you and believe you when you were in your most vulnerable state.
And the same goes for bullying. Anything horrible said to somebody these days is immediately dismissed as "dark humour" and the person should "lighten up", "be more thick skinned", how about, just not be a dick to somebody that doesn't understand/like your humour? Words can hurt, they can stay with you forever and they can fuck up your entire mental state. Then there are the "friends" who stay friends with those who bullied or hurt you, and it took me so long to realise that those people aren't actually my friends.
If you see somebody being bullied, be the person that wasn't standing up for you, be the person that wasn't there for you, that's how I live my life.
Then there's the term "attention seeking", oh goodness, I recoil at the term! Does anybody seek to be ignored? Everything we do in human existence is for attention... Look at me, writing a blog, for people to read. If somebody needs help and nobody will give it to them, then they will "seek attention", because that's the human instinct of survival. How about we stop shaming people for being "attention seeking" and just shut up and help them? Or make them feel good about themselves so they won't feel the need to seek attention in the different ways people do.
It feels like lately we aren't together as people and a world. We need to spread more love and acceptance out there. Think before you speak and whether it could hurt somebody or put them off seeking help. Not all jokes are in good taste.
